Well said, Chris. The movie "Groundhog Day" had an impct on my thinking and actions. When you realize that the one thing that you can change that will make a difference... is yourself, good things begin to happen . Thanks, Bro! TRQ
Niels Teunis
· 1 year ago
Thank you Chris. This is great. I love what you say about being helpful. Getting beyond ourselves is a true step towards leadership. I always love to read Steve Farber's books because he always urges everybody to focus on what they love and on the people they love.
Dave Seah
· 1 year ago
Leadership has been on my mind a lot recently, but I hadn't actually thought to define it in terms of goals; I think I was thinking of it as a kind of personal characteristic that people just "had", but you've triggered a shift in my perspective...awesome!
Some mind tricks that have been working for me:
You get back what you put out there: If you want your life to change, you've got to actually do something to let "life" known about it in a way so people can TELL that this is what you want. The example I use with myself is that if I want to be around positive, self-empowered people, then I had better demonstrate positive and self-empowered behavior. I've found that this is a general truism, though you can't predict exactly how things will unfold.
Think in tangible terms: This is like your advice with smaller tasks, with the added element of making sure that task produced a tangible experience: an impression on someone else in a face-to-face interaction, or a physical artifact that can be held in the hand. That's something real, and real things seem to move change along faster than just counting hours of training.
You need to give as well as receive: Related to the social support network tip you've given, I find that I get out of whack if I'm giving too more OR receiving too much. When I can create a cycle of receiving, processing, and giving, this seems to create a self-sustaining cycle. So keep an eye out for those...they're gold!
Andreas Jungherr
· 1 year ago
These days I am working on my thesis on political leadership. So I am reading my way through the usual suspects in the field of leadership theory (James MacGregor Burns, Warren G. Bennis, Howard Gardner - those guys). Most of the time their advice boils down to exactly what you describe in your post: Personal development until one is able to examine one‘s actions and their effect on oneself and others without being blinded through insecurities and fears. I think this was once the aim of an Education, as described in Fénelon‘s Télémaque or Bildungsromanen like The Education of Henry Adams. Today society‘s focus seems to lie largely on delivering Training to professionals instead of enabling an Education. Therefor everyone has to discover the road to leadership on one‘s own. Your post is a great pointer on the way.
chrisbrogan
· 1 year ago
Thanks so much for your thoughts, TRQ, Niels, Dave, and Andreas. I believe we all have the ability to build our own abilities in this area. I'm excited to hear what you believe in this space, as I think we can all learn from each other.
Ria Kennedy
· 1 year ago
There's lots of good advice, but I think the best is:
* Believe in yourself.
If you doubt yourself you will never have the courage to reach for the stars.
mike mcallen
· 1 year ago
You always say the best stuff. thanks m
Charles
· 1 year ago
Hey Chris,
Great post, thanks for the inspiration.
michelle lamar
· 1 year ago
I SOOOO needed to hear this today. Thanks Rockstar.
Alison
· 1 year ago
Thanks Chris! As usual, your timing is perfect...I'm sharing this with my team mates now...the power to look at ourselves as leaders and realize what we can do with it-fantastic.
Toby Daniels
· 1 year ago
I love to see transparency operating at such a personal level. Nice one Chris!
I'm a fan of:
"whatever you think about most of the time, then that's what you'll become"
Sounds a little disjointed but it make sense. This is why negative people struggle through life, they are constantly defeated by their own mindset.
You also talked about goals Chris. To me, this is probably the most important thing for people to focus on. If you do nothing else you should at the very least develop clear, purpose driven goals for every aspect of your life.
The key to goal setting is that purpose (the why) is more stronger than outcome. Another way to think about this is that reasons come first and answers come second.
I got this from the big man Tony Robinson.
Cheers
Toby
Toby Daniels
· 1 year ago
Meant to also direct people to this free audio book which is called The Buddha Geoff and Me. I'm not a Buddhist but then again this isn't really aimed at people who are into Buddhism.
Start with Yourself Build a Supportive Network Be Responsible Look for Small Victories at First, But Then Think Big Be Helpful
It's all in there folks.
Steve
· 1 year ago
I learnt most about personal leadership from my business mentor. I think that one tip for increasing your own perosnal leadership is to find yourself a mentor who can he you bounce your own thoughts aout what you are working woth - if they can help you even with the balance between professional and personal life, then so much the better.
Of course, this person shouldn't be a crutch that you rely upon, but instead someone who is there to give you an occasional reality check.
Kath
· 1 year ago
Great post Chris!
(found you via Micah)
ravi karandeekar
· 1 year ago
Personal leadership also guides you when there are no role models to follow or proven formula to success. Take a lead. Chris, thanks for the post.
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Thanks, Bro!
TRQ
Some mind tricks that have been working for me:
You get back what you put out there:
If you want your life to change, you've got to actually do something to let "life" known about it in a way so people can TELL that this is what you want. The example I use with myself is that if I want to be around positive, self-empowered people, then I had better demonstrate positive and self-empowered behavior. I've found that this is a general truism, though you can't predict exactly how things will unfold.
Think in tangible terms:
This is like your advice with smaller tasks, with the added element of making sure that task produced a tangible experience: an impression on someone else in a face-to-face interaction, or a physical artifact that can be held in the hand. That's something real, and real things seem to move change along faster than just counting hours of training.
You need to give as well as receive:
Related to the social support network tip you've given, I find that I get out of whack if I'm giving too more OR receiving too much. When I can create a cycle of receiving, processing, and giving, this seems to create a self-sustaining cycle. So keep an eye out for those...they're gold!
* Believe in yourself.
If you doubt yourself you will never have the courage to reach for the stars.
thanks
m
Great post, thanks for the inspiration.
I'm a fan of:
"whatever you think about most of the time, then that's what you'll become"
Sounds a little disjointed but it make sense. This is why negative people struggle through life, they are constantly defeated by their own mindset.
You also talked about goals Chris. To me, this is probably the most important thing for people to focus on. If you do nothing else you should at the very least develop clear, purpose driven goals for every aspect of your life.
The key to goal setting is that purpose (the why) is more stronger than outcome. Another way to think about this is that reasons come first and answers come second.
I got this from the big man Tony Robinson.
Cheers
Toby
http://abuddhistpodcast.com/
Start with Yourself
Build a Supportive Network
Be Responsible
Look for Small Victories at First, But Then Think Big
Be Helpful
It's all in there folks.
Of course, this person shouldn't be a crutch that you rely upon, but instead someone who is there to give you an occasional reality check.
(found you via Micah)
thanks alot.