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This post is actually soooo funny. I have a lady friend, who shall remain anonymous. She is a salesperson, and a high powered one at that. Blonde and voluptous, she is any mans dream, until she opens her mouth. It is all just me, me, me......I really wonder how she keeps that aspect of her being out of her sales repertoire!

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CV Harquail — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 10:42:32 -0000

Hi Chris-- You've really captured some of the techniques and philosophy behind an us-centered approach to conferences. I've learned that at conferences, doing leads to understanding, so even if you don't 'get' why you'd act these ways, once you start doing it, you get it. And, it puts you in a really good mood too.

One small adjustment, etiquette-wise: One asks the senior person's permission to introduce the junior person. You treat the senior person as the one who gets to decide whether or not to accept the introduction. So, it's "Ms. President, may I introduce Senator x". Introductions go up the hierarchy. And dessert spoons go horizontally above the plate. :-)

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Jason — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 09:25:24 -0000

Hey Chris, coming in a little late on this comment but found this article as I'm doing research for my new post. I think the article is right on! It's not always about you, it's about your clients, friends, families, etc. If you make a good a impression you'll have plenty of time to disclose whatever information that is pertinent. I look forward to seeing you at the So Cal Action Sports event.

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Rufus Dogg — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 09:05:27 -0000

Just read this from a link on a later post. How did you EVER get away with calling her wife the "junior person" in the following? How long have you been married to this woman and why has she not left you after this blog post?

"When you introduce two people, it’s customary to introduce the lesser-known or junior person to the senior person. If I introduce my wife to the President of the United States of America, I’d say, 'Honey, I want you to meet Mr. Barack Obama.'

Every married guy knows that his wife is NEVER junior or lesser-known to ANYONE, not even the President of the United States of America. Sorry, Chris, you got that one wrong :-)

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Robin Anderson — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 16:15:22 -0000

Great information, Chris. Thank you! I've not been to a conference but can see how this will work at other business mixers.

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Lisa McGrath — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 13:41:15 -0000

Great tips, Chris. Sometimes getting back to the basics is what it's really all about. I appreciate your sharing. And as someone who was recently DEFINITELY odd man out at a party, I appreciated when folks pulled me in. People like friendly, open people.

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Bill Gaffney — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 11:36:56 -0000

Morning Chris,

We're all so muddled down in theories, reports, metrics and numbers that often the most simple and practical advice resonates as the most profound. So, thank you.

As a self-described wall-flower, it can be very difficult to "intrude" into the clicks that seem to form at conferences. The secret -- in my experience -- is people are very welcoming and open (just like in social networking) to authenticity, humility and passion.

Regards,
Bill Gaffney

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Scott Lockhart — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 14:44:58 -0000

Chris - i hope I passed the test at BlogWorld! I did have Louis Gray as my wingman which probably helped. ;) I would also add that especially in the case where one of the people may think that you want something from them (publicity, business opportunity, etc)one shouldn't be clingy. I prefer to go for long term relationships which means they can start slow and grow. I guess i did okay at BlogWorld as I came home with a ridiculous stack of business cards.

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Christa M. Miller — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 12:37:12 -0000

Shelly, I too am a "watcher" for many of the same reasons (except it takes a longer time for my sense of humor to come out). Where in Yankee country are you? We are trying to move south, ironically, but if you are anywhere near me (northern New England) maybe we should try to get together?

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Abbey — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 11:49:56 -0000

Great post Chris. While most of the time we all have the best of intentions when approaching others in a social/networking setting, it's important to refresh on the connectivity points you mention. These are great guidelines for those entering an unfamiliar atmosphere or for those who are simply shy or somewhat intimidated. Another one for MCC circulation--thanks Chris!

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Fred — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 11:36:03 -0000

I really admire how prolific you are, Chris! And what a great topic. While I'm by nature practically a hermit, I've forced myself to learn how to be a more social person and it's actually not as scary as those irrational fears make you think (hey, at least I'm not at a conference of spiders, right?)

Same rules apply to conferences as to social media -- be friendly, be authentic, and say what you gotta' but not more.

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Shelly — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 11:09:44 -0000

Social settings are hard for me. I always hear about great conferences and such that I would love to go to, but I don't because when I do, I usually end up by myself somewhere, feeling like a social reject. :)

My issue is I'm a "watcher". I have a great sense of humor - and perhaps a little on the crude side, very sarcastic, and it's a bit dry. Many times, people take me seriously when they really shouldn't. So instead of just popping in and being me, I tend to "watch" others so I know who I can be "me" with - because sometimes I'm a lot to take.

This leads to many people thinking I'm a shy wallflower, or standoffish. I have yet to find that good middle ground where I can smile and say one of the many jokes that just popped into my head because you really laid a golden path for me by that last comment, and shoving my foot so far down my throat that the stomach acid has eaten away my toes. I love connecting with people - but it just seems to be really hard for me. (Could be because I've moved to Yankee country from the South, and honestly folks, you all aren't the most approachable people up here. When I first moved up here, I was driving to my house and saw a neighbor walking down the street. I waved at him with a smile as I drove by. He looked at me like I was going to jump out of the car and beat him to death. I mean, really...what's that about?!?)

You can be my wingman anytime Chris. ;)

Oh, by the way - best "breaking the ice" game ever: "I Never". Talk about starting up some interesting conversations. LOL But if you ever get a chance to play that game, you totally should. You might learn some things you didn't want to know!

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Avil Beckford — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 08:51:53 -0000

Chris, I really enjoyed this post and there is a lot of truth to what you say. Bringing someone into a conversation where they feel included is especially important to people like me who are introverts.

Also, there are too many people out there who do not have well developed listening skills and so you are introducing yourself and they are only half listening because they are actually looking to see if there is someone who is more connected (they don't want to miss out on that opportunity). Not only is this rude but it doesn't make the other person feel very good.

Thanks for being so aware and it's also important that we all realize (me included) that life really isn't about me me me. We all have a responsibility to help each other. Together we accomplish so much more. www.twitter.com/avilbeckford

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Oane Vladimir — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 06:42:15 -0000

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Ruben — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 22:25:09 -0000

Chris, great post! To add to this, I always look for cues to pick up on if I start talking too much. Wandering eyes, confusion, etc. That is when I revert back to asking them questions and trying to reengage them.

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GeekMommy — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 19:44:44 -0000

Excellent post.

And an excellent reminder of why I both adore you and am envious of you in a way that would be mean and petty if I didn't already adore you so much.
You managed to put into words something I've done for years, but never bothered to put into words.

I absolutely love, love, love connecting interesting people to interesting people. I'd rather introduce someone to someone else than to talk about myself... I guess maybe I need to add connector to my self-defined job description.

The thing is? I've found that I learn so much more about myself talking with others about what *they* do then I ever do talking about me. It's like teaching in that way.

Still though - I think there's a line somewhere that I'm still trying to find - that one where I'm not actually providing the other person with enough information about myself.
I mean, if you and I are both busy asking each other questions rather than giving answers, no information is shared either.

But as usual, you've hit another home run Chris! :)

p.s. I met both Liz & Jason at BWE as well and you are spot on! ;) They rock!

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Angela Bull — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 19:11:12 -0000

Hey Chris - it was great reading this, especially after I watched you exemplify it at the TechSet party on the first night of BlogWorld. You were one of the people I met that stuck out in my mind.

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Klaus Holzapfel — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 19:10:15 -0000

Very authentic (sorry for the use of the buzzword).
I can say for myself that Chris doesn't just talk the talk but also practices what he preaches about in the article.

I saw Chris in a very busy environment last weekend and he just stayed amazingly accessible. He is a great offline communicator as well and doesn't need to hide in a dungeon behind a screen;-)

I wish this post could be published on a big billboard on sunset Boulevard in Hollywood. These guys need it the most.

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Marvin — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 17:30:05 -0000

I've been doing things like this for years, but this is the first time I've seen a "formalized" description. You've done a great job of describing the process!!!

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Craig Klein — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 17:20:03 -0000

Well put! Not to being too sarcastic here but, there was a dude running around about 2000 years ago that kind of had the right attitude.

Do things with the other person in mind, not yourself, and you'll end up being the beneficiary...