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yah00 — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 04:23:26 -0000

As always, wise words. Thanks for all your hard work and sharing.

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memory cards — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 00:36:59 -0000

I have found that when I and other people interested in (tick and what unique ways they find success) I have areas that do not click as fast as I want them focused on'm not. People always have excuses (like I'm free .... to the network) but shaking hands and business is not just about business cards. When done right takes you to the stars inspired to find ways to reach.

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Sikiş izle — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 20:43:27 -0000

thanks

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matériel informatique — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 08:19:30 -0000

This is so true, Chris. It's amazing how we often look at the few things that go wrong and neglect the hundreds of things that went right in every day we live. Enjoying the series.

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accessoires photo — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 00:57:41 -0000

This is so true, Chris. It's amazing how we often look at the few things that go wrong and neglect the hundreds of things that went right in every day we live. Enjoying the series.

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Fruitfulvine2 — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 12:06:01 -0000

I was seriously about to throw a pity party on Thursday. I came home from a ladies retreat to find that the two days I was away my daily hits went way way way down. It's not like there were no posts on those day. I had scheduled posts go out as well as a guest post. And I was sorely tempted to throw in the towel. I'm not giving up but it sure was a blow to my 'ego' on Thursday.

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George Passwater — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:12:03 -0000

Another great video Chris.

It's all about mindset and what you do when something gets in your way. Yeah, I have been through the pitty parties but I know what the end goal is and I focus on that.

As a parent, I tell my children to never give up; this is what we should look at as well. By focusing on our goal and never giving up, we can make ourselves a success.

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Elizabeth H. Cottrell — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:41:03 -0000

Another zinger, Chris...thank you for this fantastic series.

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Christine Green — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 19:42:47 -0000

I advise my coaching clients to allow themselves to wallow however intensely they need to, but with a time limit. It might be 10 minutes, 2 hours or whatever....then it's time to get on their grown-up game and take the next step to get where they want to be. It seems to work well to give ourselves permission to drop into the depths of the muck, kick and scream, and then get over it.

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Christian Russell — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 18:19:06 -0000

100% agreed. Self-pity is natural and should not be catastrophized. Is that a word? In other words, feel it...but don't kick yourself when you're down. Realize it's natural. Everyone feels this stuff. Then go do something constructive. You're absolutely hit the nail on the head when you said the trick is not to not feel self-pity...but to get out of it quickly. Getting back on track quickly is what's key.

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Robyn — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 16:52:29 -0000

Really diggin this Overnight Success Series. Great advice in this post, feel it and move on...pity's not a stopping point. Thanks, Chris and keep it coming!

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Deb — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 10:20:25 -0000

As always, wise words. Thanks for all your hard work and sharing.

Speaking of your newsletter, I signed up for it months ago and am not receiving it. Hate to be missing out on all the good stuff.

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partywedo — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 07:27:08 -0000

Our youngest daughter, her husband and a grandson live in Concord, NH, just up the road from Manchester...

Now I am in a pity party about not seeing them for a while... I am getting on Skype this morning and getting out of the funk, by visiting with them!

I never could see how Pity and Party would go together very well...

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Rob Babiak — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 05:57:45 -0000

Great video. Thanks for sharing. I think sometimes it is hard to realize you are having a pitty party and even harder to move on from a pitty party. I like your tips on how to move forward. Thanks

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Suzanne Vara — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 01:46:18 -0000

Ah the pity party that we all go to because it is easy to go to. I go there and then shake my head about it as there is so much more that others do not have that I do and I am crying? In many ways we are innately selfish and feel deserving. Deserving of what? We do not deserve, we earn. In that holding zone of trying to earn, we see others doing better and feel we deserve so we pity party. I am at times a repeat offender.

What gets me out of the pity party? My son who is 4. Andrew is learning life and is that what I want to teach him that we give up? Yeah no. We do our best and sometimes there are people better but we champion them and learn from them. I also go to @kahuna75 as his food videos are to me so entertaining probably since I remember him since the 4th grade.

A pity party is self induced and quitting. Albeit there are folks out there who are trying to get jobs and cannot and pity parties/discouragement is valid but there is no chance that success will happen when you are on a downer. Think like a winner and you will be one (it may take time but a few get riding a bike the first time without training wheels). Confidence comes from within but so does pity parties. We create it and let it consume us.

Suz

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Jezra — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 18:23:22 -0000

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Angela Misri — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 15:43:00 -0000

SO TRUE, Brogan, I had a pity DAY last week... noticed around noon that I was looking haggard and whining to people about workload, decided to lock myself in my office and refocus. Sometimes you have to do that. Focus on successes, focus on your TEAM'S successes, change how things are working, stop whining, pick one of your 30 projects and NAIL that one. Create something to feel good about. Good advice, Chris, as always, and my favorite Overnight Success story because everyone goes through a Pity Party once in a while.

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Ken Montville — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 13:20:40 -0000

Pity parties are the worst. However, they are also the easiest parties to throw. Sometimes it's really not that easy to jump out of them. If only......

Of course, there's always Jack Daniels. :-)

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bkjrecruiter — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 11:59:17 -0000

Thanks Chris! Great video... Creating a "state" (mindset) is key in moving out of a "pity party"... Your idea of donating, or volunteering is wonderful! I can say without hesitation/that is precisley the way I get out of my own "funks"....

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Derek Markham — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 10:49:55 -0000

Thanks for the great reminder! These videos, as short as they are, always leave me with something to think about and work on.

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melaniemorris — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 10:27:32 -0000

One of the things I love the most about your work and your message is that you remind us it's all about the basics. It's not complicated what makes one successful. It's the basics: the right attitude, good work ethic, seek to serve.

Thanks for breaking it down into the basics and reminding us to keep that focus.

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darenmckelvey — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 09:50:25 -0000

Yeah Gotta crash your own pity party sometimes and snap out of it. Such a great post :)

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alanweinkrantz — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 08:42:29 -0000

Chris, my friends @nanpalmero and @erikdarm from http://www.salesby5.com has an amazing Pity Party every Friday about 4 PM at their offices.

See: http://pearanalytics.com/bl...

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tonyfaustino — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 07:09:31 -0000

Well said Chris. Your point that really hit home for me was accepting that something has happened and then taking appropriate action. I think this is especially important when a situation just absolutely smacks you down or drives you straight into Pity City (paraphrasing @Retirepreneur). My action was to seek the advice of people that I really trusted and knew they wouldn't blow me any smoke on how I should plan my next moves.

This was incredibly important because I was in a situation at work that drove me to Pity City. My trusted set of friends helped me sort things out and even more importantly gave me concrete advice on how to navigate a politically sensitive situation. Their trusted advice is why I was able to successfully "drive out" of Pity City. On some days, that drive literally seemed like one block at a time. But even on those days, I knew I was on the right path because I knew I was implementing sound advice from people that cared about me.

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thomsinger — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 07:06:40 -0000

One fringe benefit of actively networking often... seeking out new people and finding real ways to connect with them, and help them (not just trying to network so people will help you) is that it can expose you to all kinds of new people. Interacting with other humans can not only be fun, interesting, and inspiring --- but it can keep you from having the routine and boredom that lead to feeling sorry for yourself. I have found that when I am interested in other people and what makes them tick (and unique ways they find success) i am not focused on my own areas that are not clicking as fast as I want them to. People always have excuses (like I am too busy) to NOT network.... but it is not just about shaking hands and trading business cards. When done right it keeps you motivated to find ways to reach the stars.