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Re: Confidence and The Next Move

jeet020 — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 15:03:25 -0000

Very interesting post,

Fitness equipment, especially treadmills, are quickly gaining ground as the premiere choice for at-home exercising.

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Great Treadmills fitness Blog.

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Dhane Crowley — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 04:06:37 -0000

I found your blog while I was cleaning up my Google Reader, and I'm glad I did. Thanks for this wonderful bit on wisdom.

Without confidence, you can't possibly expect someone to believe in you if you don't believe in yourself.

What a great article!

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mani — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 04:29:47 -0000

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The Writer Mama — Sat, 09 May 2009 01:10:53 -0000

I'm going to check out this McKay book. Thanks for sharing it. I think I'll read it with Gladwell's Outliers. :)

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Joseph Fiore — Fri, 01 May 2009 08:47:37 -0000

Sorry, I forgot to link a reference to the book - its called "Spark: The revolutionary new science of excercise and the brain" by John J. Ratey, M.D., and here is a bit.ly shortened url of the USAToday article about it: http://bit.ly/cH5eh

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Joseph Fiore — Fri, 01 May 2009 08:41:19 -0000

Chris,

Some fantastic insights - thanks for sharing!

I may be stating the obvious with my comments, but in my own experience, there are two fundamental elements to confidence that have either acted as an enabler, or a disabler. The first is something about our appearance and self-esteem. I have found that engaging in physical excercise, especially in a consistent enough manner where you test your bodies limits has much to do in shaping your threshold of tolerance for risk taking. This kind of leads off your idea of the skaters way. Its difficult to explain, but you need to shake that inner voice that you hear when your on your last leg on the treadmill, telling you "the chest hurts... gasp... can't take it anymore" - if you cannot find a way to somehow overcome its coercive way, you're just setting yourself up for deflated confidence. This idea ties into the "running" theme Will Smith talked about during a speech he gave after winning the Kid's Choice award.

Still related to this notion of conditioning confidence, there is also a very important movement shaping around a book and the idea that excercise actually helps condition not only our bodies but our brain's. The thing that got me thinking this theory made logical sense is that I've actually experienced the "brain gain" it talks about. I found out about the book watching an inspirational documentary about a teacher at a "reform" type school in Canada (where children with social and behavioural issues end up as their last option before falling through the cracks of the school system) where a teacher brought treadmills into a classroom and got these kids to workout for 20 minutes each day before doing classwork. The results were astonishing. One kid who could not sit still or read before starting this program had improved his reading and writing by 80% and his comprehension up 300%. IMHO, this was clearly a case of a teacher that had invested time and attention in them like no other teacher before, and while the "brain gain" was at the core of their improvement, there was also an element of inspiring confidence within themselves that took them down the path of self-improvement.

The second is a barrier or disabler - its something called ego. I once heard a really good analogy from a Mass reading that described ego as "easing God out." Its a point that really resonates with me, and much of what you talk about in your posts, and that relates to the importance of selfless acts, sharing and contributing without expecting anything in return. Doing good with your skills and talent. Nothing has more of an impact on a persons confidence when their over-inflated ego gets crushed, and the only good that can come from that experience is geting over being self-centered and realizing there is more to life than how you project yourself to others.

Joseph
@RepuTrack

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natashawescoat — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 11:55:03 -0000

This has been my constant theme for the last five years. Without risks, we will see nothing. I've taken huge risks over these 5 years in my career and life and have only seen positive results so far. I've had a few falls here and there, but quite literally, they've been the propellers to the next level. The American dream is in the ability to take those risks and have the freedom to try for what we want. And social media is another tool that allows me to do that. Very exciting!

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Juliet — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 17:54:04 -0000

I totally second the book recommendation for Self Esteem by Fanning & McKay. - love that book! I think it makes a difference that it was written by psychologists and not gurus and let's the reader decide what's working for them - lots of different perspectives and options.

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Brett Borders — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 13:22:12 -0000

As a former skateboarder, I really appreciate your "go to a skatepark" analogy. It's all about risk. But if you really want to understand risk firsthand.. don't do to a skatepark and watch.... you've got to drop in. ;)

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frank barry — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 10:58:54 -0000

Believing in your self and have others around you that believe in you, support your encourage you and tell you the truth. I think these 2 things are the building blocks or foundation. Without them everything else is that much harder. With them, anything is possible.

I think i'm at the RISK point ... it's the logical next or 3rd piece of the puzzle. Once you believe in your self and have a good group of people around you taking RISK becomes the next step. Maybe you have to have a plan in place, but many of us know where we want to go or what we want to do deep down in our gut so it them becomes a matter of doing something about it - taking the RISK.

http://twitter.com/franswaa

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rebeccacheng — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 00:56:23 -0000

Love the way you clearly defined:

Financial Goal. Relationship Goal. Career Goal.

Great reading.

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Justin — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 14:55:36 -0000

This is one of your best posts yet. So much truth to it, especially the part about eliminating excuses.

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Lee Williams — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 12:58:47 -0000

Someone recently asked me what was the biggest obstacle for getting my business to that next level.
I said "Money"
She pointed at me and said " 'I' was"
I said "Money"
She disagreed.

I'm perplexed. It's a generalization. I'm angry at that statement...does that make me the obstacle? I throw in the towel.

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Napoleon B (@P0_P0) — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 11:50:53 -0000

Great post!

I agree with everything here, especially the part about believing in yourself.

One thing that I didn't consider until reading this post was that a social network can actually help build confidence. It's true, now that I think about my personal experience in my little social networks on twitter and facebook. I know I can count on certain people to answer my questions and give valuable opinions and feedback. Many of these people I have never met in real life - just online contacts - and yet the feedback I get from them is genuine and welcomed by me.

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Gordon Curtis — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 08:42:50 -0000

Chris,

Another spot on post. Congratulations to you and my brilliant friend David Cutler on his joining you. He is amazing. Been forwarding your posts everywhere that matters while on shared journey of writing a social networking book. Got several players from my publisher Jossey-Bass to attend next Inbound Marketing conference. Wish I could go. Keep up the great work!

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stevebrogan — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 08:18:39 -0000

I wish I had read this post prior to playing a tourney at Poker Stars on Sunday when this post came out! Lots of great ideas, usable in real life.

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@JoshHurlock — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 01:05:16 -0000

This is tremendous. Confidence leads to success. You cannot be successful if you do not believe in yourself. Otherwise, that lack of confidence will hold you back. Confidence allows you to take action, which is the only way anything becomes accomplished.

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Barry Moltz — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 20:35:14 -0000

True Business Confidence comes from having resiliency. Knowing that success and failure are part of the business cycle. When you have success- celebrate, when you have failure- mourn, but then let go and get ready for another opportunity at success. Goods times don't last forever but bad times don't either!

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Linda Johannesson — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 19:20:10 -0000

Chris - as always... wise words.
I find that confidence and the habit of developing continuous improvements (no matter how small) go hand in hand. If you're constantly focused on making improvements - in your business, your relationships, your fitness....whatever, there's a feeling of control over your life that comes from that. I think this feeling of control helps to breed confidence that's required to make the big leaps of faith - it gives you the strength to feel the fear and do it anyway.
PS - love the shaved head!!!

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markivey — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 16:19:00 -0000

Nice post Chris. At the end of the day, all you have is your own wits, network, brainpower , experiences, etc, and being confident in your own path is critical. Secondly, "security" as defined by society is often an illusion anyhow, so you must be confident in carving out your own niche. I left the comforts of the corporate life and an executive communications job about five years ago and all the benefits and steady paychecks. First couple of years of building a business were pretty brutal, but it eventually paid off. Meantime, the company I left is being swallowed up by a bigger one, so the few people I know who survived there now face an uncertain future. As you think about taking a risk or following your own passion, think of this: "Ultimately we know deeply that on the other side of every fear is freedom." Marilyn Ferguson

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AlexisCeule — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 15:53:22 -0000

I want a PODCAMP in Kansas City. Maybe I'll host one... hmmmm... I checked the calendar for '09 and nothing is near us. I see there's one in BERLIN! LOL! Awesome.... but no good for us Kansas City folk.

Who do I contact? Whitney?

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Jamie Favreau — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 14:53:27 -0000

I believe you should have passion for what you are doing and with this comes the self confidence to do what you believe in. This is a great motivator because you need this core group of mentors to help you succeed.

I was asked a question by one of my employers which I plan on leaving once I find something and/or start my own freelance business! He said, "would you have come in if you had known three days prior to the event you were going to be missing work." The answer is, "NO." I am an usher at a sports arena and some bad things have happened.

The truth is I am passionate about learning about social media and networking in person. So this drives me to be a better marketer for myself and hopefully my dream job which just opened up. I am thinking with out the confidence to see things clearly I would not have made the decision which I am considering with a lot of studying.

I know getting the dream job is hard work which is why I am doing it.

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tojosan — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 13:22:25 -0000

Confidence isn't about know the the outcome and moving, it's about about having a vision and moving towards it regardless of 'obstacles'. You're the guy that sees instead of obstacles, opportunities, even if they are opportunities to fail and grow and keep going.

Becky is great. I don't spend enough time connected to her. I'm still working on forming my support group. Great beginnings I have in Becky McCray, Rick Mahn, Chris Cree, and Sheila Scarborough. I need some more and specifically on some areas.

I've not been actively building a close support structure for a stepping off point.

Goals though, I have some. One big one - put St. Louis on the map for social media and networking. That to me means events, blogging, meetups, video, etc. I won't be doing it all myself, but enlisting, encouraging, and sponsoring others is where I'll be the rest of the time.

Cheers to confidence. I really heard it in my voice this morning for the first time in a while. It's time to take off.

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Christine Fife — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 12:58:15 -0000

Already tweeting this post along. It is a great "step back" for people who are trying to start something new.

On "Confidence is About Small Successes" and "Confidence is About Risk"... Too many people fear the risk and don't grasp the small successes (baby steps) concept because the fear of accomplishing the whole is so great. For people who have that fear, there are a lot of things you can do to minimize the risk/fear.
1) Look it up: so much is available online to answer your questions. There are people who have tried something at least similar to what you want to do. Learn from them. Reach out to them. Find the experiences they've already posted online somewhere. And, there is a lot of free expert advice and how-to's online.
2) Jump In to the Market Conversation: Whatever your idea is, there is a market for it (otherwise you probably wouldn't have thought of the idea.) So really consider what your market space is and find the individual's who are influencing that space. Follow what they have to say and start participating in their conversation. Ask questions, make comments, see what other participants are saying. All of this will lead you to more helpful information that you might not have thought of looking for.